We all want to view ourselves as good people. When we behave unethically, we usually justify the behavior by rationalizing to ourselves that there was a good reason for the behavior. Justification protects our self-concept so that we don’t have to feel bad about ourselves. If we are only a little dishonest, we can still feel good about our sense of integrity.

Research shows that making quick decisions without using an ethical guide leads to less ethical choices; using ethical guides helps keep you honest. So if you want to maintain or improve your relationships, be ethical and get in the habit of using an ethical guide when making decisions.

Remember that what you think about affects your behavior. If you keep thinking about doing something unethical and justifying it, you may give in to the temptation. Remind yourself it is unethical and stop thinking about it.