Mentoring is defined by the nature and intention of a relationship, rather than the specific behaviors within it. While a mentor has unique attributes that define the role, this role is familiar to us and we can identify people we feel are or have been a mentor to us. Additionally, we regularly perform this role for others, often without appreciating that. An active mentor relationship has typical attributes that work together to create a foundation for success.

As you mentor someone else, your effective choices or responses are supported by a set of guiding principles. Mentors come in different shapes and guises and yet share the same tendencies and abilities. An active mentor relationship (or assignment) is supported by the idea of a process or journey, i.e. an experience with a beginning, middle and end. During the journey of any mentor, there are pitfalls (or risks) that the mentor must avoid along the way.

By staying aware of these potential pitfalls, you can avoid them or respond constructively as they arise. As with any potential risk, you need a balanced approach (to avoid creating an issue where none actually exists). It’s a good idea to check back over the list of pitfalls occasionally, or use reflection techniques to maintain self-awareness.